The Insight Coaching Academy
A 5-month apprenticeship focused on developing the habit of creating clients and coaching powerfully
Welcome to Week 16 of the ICA!
I love how we keep experiencing more and more insights! Remember, with this program as well as anything you seek to accomplish… it’s not about the goal… it’s about who you become along the way.
The 30-Day Connect Game
Let’s continue with our goal of connecting with 1 person a day (or more) on average through the month of January!
Michael Neill’s Supercoach Series - A Whole New Way Of Thinking About Goals
This video changed how I view goals as well as my way of coaching.
Michael Neill shows us that well-being is the essence of our nature.
We can’t lose it or achieve it. Well-being is just who we are, yet we believe that somehow we can reach a higher level of well-being through the achievement of our goals, through getting something or getting rid of something.
When we move in the direction of our desires, all kinds of other things get created that we couldn’t have imagined before if we tried to put them on a vision board. And that’s really been my experience.
What Michael is suggesting is that we don’t have to have goals. Of course, they’re nice, and I have things that would be great if I experience them, but I don’t have to make the entire focus of my life be about achieving.
As a matter of fact, looking back over my life I now realize that having so many goals often kept me closed off from other opportunities to experience the fullness of life.
I also realized that at times I don’t think I actually wanted what I thought I wanted. And that’s why the quote, “You can have anything you want in life—you just have to want it” is so powerful.
Michael leaves us with some powerful coaching and self-coaching questions…
What if it really is just as simple as being happy and content and enjoying life?
What is there’s nowhere to get to because we’re already here?
What would you still want? What would be fun and interesting to move towards?
The Simple Way To Make Decisions
This is another incredible take on another aspect of the human condition. It’s more than a “take,” actually. It’s pure truth.
Michael points out that what we think of as making decisions is just what happens when we step outside the natural flow of ourselves and our innate intelligence.
Most of the day, we’re continuously making decisions without even thinking about it. We’re relying on this innate intelligence that guides us seamlessly through the day toward happiness, toward success, toward safety, and toward fulfillment.
It’s a direct flow of wisdom toward action, but then there are certain things in life that cause us to become conscious of the process. We then step outside of the flow and the natural intelligence. We get inside our head, and then we decide that we have a big decision to make. And instead of going back to our natural, innate intelligence, we begin to try to figure out which way to go, which path to take.
We think about it. We think about it. And the longer we wait, the more jammed up we become and the less likely we are to make the right decision.
The reason why we make such a big deal out of decisions is that we believe that our well-being is contingent on us making the right decision. And it’s not. We have an innate well-being already in us. It is a part of who we are. We can’t lose it. And we can’t achieve it. Again, it is aleady who we are.
When I think about this, I realize just how easy it is to be happy. All I have to be is happy.
Michael suggests that with decisions we simply ask ourselves, “Would I want to do this? Would I like to do this?”
Yes is an answer. No is an answer. And then the only other answer is “I don’t know.”
When we think we have to make a decision it’s just us stepping outside of the flow of our inner knowing.
There’s no such thing as a decision, he says. We either want to do something or we don’t or we don’t know. There’s no decision to be made.
The mistake we make is that we think that we have to know something before we know it. And that’s why “I don’t know” is such a great answer.
If you know that you’ll know when you know, then you don’t have to know ahead of time. The responsive intelligence within us has simply not given us the answer.
Michael Neill Show Up And Rain
Micheal telling the story I wrote about recently in one of our Facebook group announcements.
More Bryon Katie and The Work
Bryon Katie says it’s a beautiful world where we are if we question what we believe.
She explains that the mind has a job. When it has a thought, it’s job is to prove that the thought is right. I’ve mentioned that already, but just slow down and think about that a little more. Powerful Truth.
In this video, Katie points out that when you compare yourself to others or even think about someone in your mind, it’s not real—it’s just your imagination.
Steve Chandler Interviewing George Pransky on the Three Principles
This was mindblowing for me, and I hope it is for you.
Homework is due by the end of this coming Monday night.
Post your weekly reports as well as anything else I assign in the Facebook group, please!
With Referrals, give the gift of your time.
These words… “If you know someone who would benefit from what I do, here’s what I'll do. I will offer them an hour and a half of my time for free and that would be a gift from you.”
My Weekly Report
—Keep taking notes on any insights you or anyone you coach have so that you can share these stories with others later. Sharing stories is a powerful coaching tool.
—Did you connect with 1 person each day on average this week toward your goal of connecting with 30 people this month?
If so, great! If not, you can do more this coming week!
—What would you like to improve upon during the last month of this program?
—How many people did you offer the gift of your time in the form of a referral?