The Insight Coaching Academy
A 5-month apprenticeship focused on developing the habit of creating clients and coaching powerfully
Welcome to Week 17 of the ICA!
We moving into February this week, and that means we are moving into the last few weeks of your Apprenticeship!
Michael Neill’s Supercoach Series - A Radical New Understanding Of Human Emotion
Another incredible video filled with incredible Truths…
Michael Neill points out how we tend to look at our days as either good or bad. “Was it day good?” “Yes, it was good” or… “No, it was a bad day.”
And what he suggests is that when we have had a good day (or good week or good month), we felt good, and when we had a bad day (or bad week or bad month), we felt bad.
But my question is “Did you feel bad more than 50% of the day?”
“Moment after moment for more than half the minutes and hours in the day, did you feel bad?” I don’t think so.
What Michael says that’s really insightful is that it’s not your day that determines your mood, it’s your mood that determines your day.
It’s not your day that determines your mood, it’s your mood that determines your day.
The implication of this Truth is that circumstances don’t improve our life.
If I asked you, “If circumstances improved, would you be happier? If you had more money, would you be happier? If you had a better relationship, would you be happier? If you had a better job, would you be happier?”
And of course the answer would be “yes,” but the Truth is that you can be happy or miserable in any circumstances.
Then it’s not the circumstances that make you happy. It’s how you think.
As a matter of fact, there are studies showing that people who lose the use of their arms or legs as well as people who win the lottery, after a year, their level of happiness generally returns to the same place it was prior to their new circumstances.
Michael adds that very feeling is the flip side of our thoughts. We are living in the feeling of our thoughts, not the feeling of our circumstances.
If you start to get a sense of the thought created nature of our experiences and our feelings, everything changes for you.
Your life begins to change because we’ve been conditioned to believe that our experiences and our feelings are the result of our circumstances and therefore when we change our circumstances, we change our experiences and how we feel.
We’re happier, but it’s not true because it’s not constant. It’s how we think about our circumstances that informs how we experience them and feel them.
Productivity At The Speed Of Life
Michael explains that the problem with the time management systems and productivity tools is that we spend more time on them than we save with the time management systems and become more productive with the tools.
The Truth is that we always get done what we need to get done when it’s time to get it done. This is so insightful and so true.
Michael also makes the point that he remembers what he needs to remember. Our in-the-moment, responsive intelligence gives us exactly what we need exactly when we need it.
Yet we spend so much time planning and trying to keep track of things that we waste time, which is just another way for the mind to keep us distracted.
When you are feeling stressed or feeling like it’s too much, ask yourself the question, “Is it overwhelm or overload?” Overwhelm is the emotional response to the amount we have to do, whereas overload is simply having too much work. We have more work planned to do than we can actually do in the given time, and the way that we can determine which it is—overwhelm or overload—is to slow down, get quiet, and examine it. And if it still feels like overload, then it probably is. We probably have too much to do. And the problem is that when we try to do too much, it makes the time we have less effective. We are less creative during that time because of the feeling of overwhelm.
Steve Chandler Expectation vs Agreement
Another amazing audio with Steve explaining the two choices we have in relationships. This stuff is so helpful, not only for our clients, but also in our personal lives!
Steve Chandler Expectation vs Agreement
These audios aren’t just for us to improve our own lives… they can help us transform the lives of our clients. Pay close attention, and take notes on the insights you have based on the insights Steve shares so that you can talk about them with your clients.
Steve Chandler The Focused Leader
Remember that what our clients really want is a leader.
In this audio, Steve talks about leadership and the rare kind that few leaders have… focused, but in a relaxed sense.
More of The Work with Byron Katie
This is another powerful, yet short and simple example of just how perception-shifting and insight-evoking Katie’s process can be.
Homework is due by the end of this coming Monday night.
Post your weekly reports as well as anything else I assign in the Facebook group, please!
With Referrals, give the gift of your time.
These words… “If you know someone who would benefit from what I do, here’s what I'll do. I will offer them an hour and a half of my time for free and that would be a gift from you.”
My Weekly Report
—Keep taking notes on any insights you or anyone you coach have so that you can share these stories with others later. Sharing stories is a powerful coaching tool.
—Did you connect with 1 person each day on average this week through the last few days of this month?
—What’s your focus this few weeks month of the ICA?
—How many people did you offer the gift of your time in the form of a referral?