Been sober over 10 years and still participate within the recovery movement—and what I’ve found is that the same problem which plagues alcoholics and addicts plagues the rest of the world…
And that’s fear.
Becoming fearless or at least less fearful is my mission in life, and it’s the idea behind my coaching business and brand, Rebel Against Yourself.
This fear from which we all suffer is mostly the result of one condition, something that most people never talk about…
The disease of perfectionism.
And it’s a disease because it kills dreams.
It makes taking consistent action nearly impossible.
Without making you read all about my view on the subject, I want to offer you the following 9 principles, or perhaps more appropriately described, 9 commitments, which come from the recovery movement.
A coaching client of mine gave them to me this morning, and they’re amazing.
If all you ever do for the rest of your life is try your best to maintain these attitudes and take these actions, you would slowly overcome the fear that limits you and ultimately live a fuller, and more satisfying life—just for today, one day at a time.
In other words, this stuff is gold!
Just for today—I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for 12 hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.
Just for today—I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that “Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
Just for today—I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my “luck” as it comes, and fit myself to it.
Just for today—I will try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.
Just for today—I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count. I will do at least two things I don’t want to do—just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show it.
Just for today—I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, keep my voice, low, be courteous, criticize not one bit. I won’t find fault with anything, nor try to improve or regulate anybody but myself.
Just for today—I will have a program. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. I will save myself from two pests: hurry and indecision.
Just for today—I will have a quiet half hour all by myself, and relax. During this half hour, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective of my life.
Just for today—I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful, and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.